Do you Want to Overcome Social Anxiety of Public Speaking or Communication? 

• It’s because one-to-one communication is exactly like public speaking to a large group! 

• Yes, you read right. They are practically both the same. 

• In one-to-one communication you are talking and the other person is listening directly. 

• In a bigger group of 2, 20, or 200 people, you are still talking and the others are listening.

• But each member of the audience is listening to you once again directly. 

• No one is listening to you through somebody else in the crowd, although you are addressing the whole crowd together. 

• So both communications are essentially the same.

• Similarly, one person from the group asks you a question. 

• At any one given moment, only one person can talk to you while others wait for their turn. 

• So, once again you are talking or listening to only one person at a time.

• Lack of effective communication skills can cause huge disturbances in your personal, social and professional life.

• This will surely cause Severe Anxiety sooner or later.

• Then will again cause more mis-communication in your career, domestic and social live.

• That will once again cause this cycle of Poor communication-Severe Anxiety-Communication problems-Severe Anxiety to continmue on and on and on.

• Please click here to know whether you have Severe Anxiety or the usual anxiety………

• Hello! You are already communicating easily! 

• You have already conveyed to us the message of your difficulty so easily and correctly.

• That is what communication is all about – getting your desired message across to the right person for the right effect, that’s all.

• As such, there is nothing wrong with your message or its delivery. 

• Most, most, most of the people are shy about public speaking. So your own shyness is very much OK.

• But your problem is actually in your deep-rooted anxiety about your communication and public speaking skills………

• Your real problem is your lack of self-belief. 

• You don’t have self-confidence as far as your self-expression is concerned.

• You erroneously believe that you are a poor communicator. 

• Then what you believe deep in your mind comes out through your body’s gestures.

• Your erroneous self-belief then comes true. 

• Consequently, you feel that you cannot communicate your ideas easily and boldly.

• This poor self-belief soon starts causing you more and more anxiety.

• In some rare cases such anxiety starts becoming more and more troublesome and becomes Severe Anxiety………

• Sure. In reality, there are 2 choices in human interactions.

• The First is plain talking – where a person does a monologue of blah!... blah!... blah! without bothering whether the opposite person is understanding his message correctly or not.

• It is a simple waste of everybody’s precious time and usually does not give any productive results. 

• You may be knowing some such ‘big bores’ in your circle. So you understand what we are saying.

• The Second choice is to do the real communication – where your message is carried across correctly to the right person. 

• That person understands without any distortion what you want to convey.

• Let’s not talk anything further about boring people. 

• Instead, we’ll focus our energy only on how to become a more effective communicator in one-to-one conversations as well as in public speaking in big groups. 

• What do you say? Do you agree? ………

• Your communication has 2 parts:

• Verbal communication with words - it is only 7% effective.

• Non-verbal communication without words or body language. 

• It is done by using your body’s gestures and expressions. 

• It is very much more important than verbal communication – as much as 93% effective!

• All the great communicators who have ever impressed you in your life were great because they were using their body language most effectively………

• Even when you are not speaking anything verbally your body is still speaking something through the facial expressions, shoulders, posture, legs movements, hands’ gestures, etc.

• Even without you being conscious about it, your physical body keeps on showing what’s happening in your deep subconscious mind at that particular moment through its body language.

• So you understand that in every moment you are unconsciously sending some message across through the body language. 

• You are always communicating in every moment your inner state of feelings to the outer world through your body language.

• In fact, your particular body language is right now showing what’s happening in your mind as you read these very pages.

• Whether you are excited, thrilled, neutral, or bored is simply coming out through your whole body………

• You are very right! 

• Stop bothering about what to say verbally, as it is only 7% important in your communication. 

• Even if you speak all the words of gold, its impact will still be only 7%.

• Start becoming aware of the 93% important message that is coming out through your body language right now.

• As we said earlier, you are always in the process of conveying some message through your body language at every moment. 

• If your verbal communication does not match with the non-verbal body language then this mismatch greatly decreases your talk’s impact. 

• People don’t take your communication seriously then.

• Conversely, even if you speak very few words, but your body language strongly supports your spoken words, then your impact upon the audience is immediate and huge.

• That’s The Master Key – to match your non-verbal communication strongly with your verbal communication………

• Basics of a perfect delivery... Scientific research has shown that your eyes and a smiling face are 50% effective to create the right impact upon the audience.

• Modulation of voice, the right appropriate gestures, a comfortable posture, and rest of the body are 43% effective.

• Visible enthusiasm in conveying your message boosts your confidence and the impact of your words on the audience.

• Loudness of speech has to be moderate taking the audience’s interest into the picture.

• Keep the speed moderate – neither too slow nor too fast – so that an adequate interest is maintained in your talk.

• Small and frequent pauses at the right time make your whole communication very effective.

• Clarity in putting forth your ideas is most important. 

• Don’t speak of too many things in the same talk. 

• Keep it simple, uncluttered, and focused on the most important 1-2 points only.

• Lay stress especially on the last syllable of each word. Speak it with emphasis.

• Posture... Keep your chest out, shoulders back, and head high. Distribute weight evenly on the balls of your feet. Keep knees relaxed.

• Hands... Adopt open body posture. 

• Show "nothing-to-hide" open hands. Do not cross arms or keep at the back.

• Gestures... Do gestures to explain your points more clearly. 

• Keep gestures above waist level. 

• Do not keep on repeating the same gestures again and again………

• Words... Complex or big words may look very sophisticated but are poorly followed by most of the audience. 

• Your speech should be clearly understood by the person with the least intelligence in the audience.

• Therefore, use simple words with only 1 or 2 syllables. 

e.g. Use ‘Refusal’ for ‘Unwillingness’, ‘Serious’ for ‘Humourlessness’, ‘Happy’ for ‘Irrepressible’.

• Use short, simple sentences.

• Use plenty of full stops. 

• Do not use more than 2 phrases in each sentence. 

• Verbal tics like ‘ugh, ugh, um...um…’ ‘you know, you know, ‘and all and all’ etc. distract the listener from the effectiveness of a good speech. 

e.g. ‘Having gone to attend the office on Sunday, I found the office locked because the peon had not come till 9 a.m.’ 

It can be spoken as: ‘I went to the office on Sunday. The peon had not come till 9 a.m. The office was still closed.’

• Connectives... Use ‘However’, ‘Moreover’, ‘Consequently’, ‘Therefore’, etc. to form a smooth flow. 

e.g. ‘I went to the office on Sunday. However, the peon had not come till 9 a.m. Therefore, the office was still closed’………

• Rule of 50 – 50... Use connectives to connect at least 50% of the sentences. As much as possible, avoid ‘And’, ‘Which’ to connect two different ideas.

e.g. ‘One day I was waiting for my friend in East Street and I found him coming on his bike and this gladdened my heart very much. 

It can be spoken as: ‘One day I was waiting for my friend in East Street. After a while, I saw him coming on his bike. This gladdened my heart very much.'………

• Absolutely. You are so right in having this earnest desire.

• Each and every human being has the hidden seed with in him to become a highly confident communicator and a charismatic public speaker.

• But it is the serious problems like Severe Anxiety which prevent the God-given human potential to be truly expressed - the seed never becomes a tree then………

• Just call Dr. Arora now to directly talk with him.

• Then Dr. Arora, an awakened soul, will help you through his Online Group Coaching on ‘7 Mind Secrets’. 

• For the last more than 4 decades he has been helping ambitious people like you who are having Severe Anxiety and Poor Communication Skills.  

• You too are soon going to learn how to lead a Beautiful Magical Wonderful Life [BMW Life].

• Please Call him now on his Whatsapp numbers +91 93 71 01 95 17 or 98 90 93 08 15.